Becoming a woman of virtue.

Hey guys, welcome to another blog where I will be sharing what can get in the way of becoming a virtuous woman. In my previous blog I wrote about the characteristics of a virtuous woman and you can also find this directly in the scripture where proverbs 31:10 explains those characteristics. Since we are going to be diving into this here’s a quick reminder of some the qualities;

A virtuous woman:

• Fears the Lord
• Is trustworthy
• Is resourceful
• Strong and a hard worker
• Wise
• Kind, humble, and full of love

The list continues but from what we can see a virtuous woman is secure in herself, she is precious, loved and she is able to give love. She is so valuable, the Bible says her price is far above rubies. Now as women there are so many things that can get in the way of us displaying these characteristics.

If you are a woman that has faced many challenges, have been broken down, hurt and damaged then I am speaking with you. Many of us face trauma that comes in many forms that have broken us down, that we spend years trying to build ourselves back up.

So today I’m writing about the past, the past is one of the biggest things that can get in the way of being the woman of God you are called to be.

Speaking from my own experience, for a very long time I could not see any of those qualities in myself and it’s not because I didn’t have them. It was because I did not believe I had them. If five years ago someone were to tell me I was more valuable than rubies, I would laugh in their faces and I would have many questions!

That’s because my experiences broke me down. Having two absent parents as a child I felt rejected, unloved, and abandoned even though there were others around who loved me. Then what followed was me questioning my whole existence and searching for missing pieces in places in could not be found. Before you know it all those qualities mentioned in proverbs 31 are no where to be found. To not be wanted is something that can stick with you forever, especially when that feeling has been there since being in the womb. This is just my experience but your experiences may be something different, that has stripped you away from believing you have the qualities of a virtuous woman. From the qualities of being the woman that God called you to be! Maybe your experience has made you feel unworthy, undeserving, insecure, or unlovable. One thing the enemy is going to do is use your hurt and pain against you to keep you in a position where you believe negative things about yourself. Things that are opposite to what God says about you.

I shared just a snippet of my testimony, just the surface level, and it goes much deeper. The only person who could save me was Jesus. I know what he says about me, and it’s the same for you, he loves you and cares for you deeply and you can give all your past experiences to him. In fact he already knows, he knows how many tears you’ve cried and how many sleepless nights. He says “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭11‬:‭28‬ ‭

He wants to heal you from those limiting beliefs about yourself, from all the people that tore you down and made you feel less than. He wants to heal your broken heart. He wants to give you a new life, one full of love, joy, peace and hope. You don’t have to let your past experience stop you from becoming the woman God has called you to be.

Once I familiarised myself with what God says about me and I knew his thoughts towards me. (Jeremiah 29:11). I was able to heal and find rest knowing that God has a plan and a future. Although I may not know why he allowed me to have these experiences, I do know that he used those experiences that were meant to destroy me, for his good. Now I am able to see qualities in myself of the virtuous woman described in proverbs. I am sure you will see those qualities in your self too.